Reasons for sexual orientation change

Good Reasons
Based on your own feelings and desires and not anyone else's.  These are valid reasons you might reconsider your sexual orientation identity:

• You once felt attracted to members of the same sex.  Now you don't.
• You have never felt attracted to members of the opposite sex.  Now you do.
• You have always been bisexual but both gay and straight communities have forced you to "choose".  You chose "gay" even though it really isn't accurate.  
• You were molested or otherwise abused as a child and you have always believed yourself to be gay, even though that's not really true.

Bad Reasons
Based on your desire to live up to other people's standards, rather than your own.  These also come from negative sterotypes, as well as religious indoctrinations.  These are the wrong reasons to decide to change your sexual orientation.  If you attempt so-called "reorientation" for any of the following reasons, chances are 99% that you will fail:

• The Bible says homosexuality is a sin and you want to get right with the Lord.
• Your father was absent from your life and your "father hunger" has caused you to turn to homosexuality.
• God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.
• You are a family-values Christian and you don't want to lead a deviant lifestyle.
• You are an only child and your parents want to have grandchildren.
• Your family has disowned you and you want to win them back.
• You have lost all your friends as a result of coming out.
• You've been kicked out of your apartment, fired from your job, or beaten up because you are gay.
• All gay men are effeminite sissies, except for you.
• All lesbians are tomboyish bull-dykes, except for you.
• Homosexuals are toilet-trolling perverts and you don't want to be one of them.
• You want to have children someday but gay people do not make good parents.
• Gay men have a higher risk of catching AIDS.
• As a teenager, you are the only gay kid in the world.
• You live in a small rural community and all gay people live on another planet.
• There has to be more to life than going to gay clubs every night and constantly searching for (but never finding) Mr. Right.
• All gay men are incapable of being in a committed, long-term, truly monogamous relationship-- except, of course, for you.
• Your true love has broken your heart and you have sworn off all members of the same sex.
• You are a bitter queen and the grass is certainly much greener on the other side of the fence.
• You were molested or otherwise abused as a child and don't want to be gay anymore, even though you are not at all attracted to the opposite sex and it would take alot of "therapy" to dig up non-existent desires.
• Homosexuality is just plain wrong.

Reasons to stay gay and not change

Good Reasons
In reality, there is only one:

• You have never in your life been attracted to the opposite sex and couldn't if you tried.

Bad Reasons
These are primarily based on fears of what other people will think:

• You're attracted to both sexes but to both gay and straight people, bi means bi-bye.
• Your family went through hell accepting you as gay and you don't want to put them through another coming out process.
• Gay people will reject you or will doubt your motives.
• Straight people will not fully accept you or will doubt your motives.
• The belief among the APA and orthodox LBGT groups is that sexual orientation is fixed and unchangeable.  This being the case, you are doomed to fail-- even ifin your heart and mind, "gay" no longer applies to you.  Science knows you better than you know yourself.